mixing seasonal people with lifetime expectations.

i was bored today, so i watched a film. i think this was a good choice considering the monologue of one of the characters...

"it's ok to sit around, be depressed for a minute, cry about it, do what you have to, but don't stay there too long. get up and go on with your life. this is what i've learned - if someone wants to walk out of your life, let them go. especially if you know you've done everything you could do, been the best woman you could be and they still want to go... let them go. whatever they're running after, they'll see what they had after a minute, but it'll be too late. you'll sit there and cry about it, but just think, in two or three years, you won't even remember their last name. how many times have you seen people and been like "what the hell was i thinking?? i must have been lonely as hell to hook up with you." just let folks go. some people come into your life for a lifetime and some come for a season. you have to know which is which. and you're going to always mess up when you mix seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. i know some who have married people they were only supposed to be with for a season, and they wonder why they're having so much hell in their lives. that was a person who was supposed to come and teach you one thing. you didn't know it so you fell in love, and now you wonder why you don't have peace anywhere you go. i put everyone who comes into my life in a category of a tree. some people are like leaves on a tree - when the wind blows, they're over here, unstable. when it blows the other way, they move with it. seasons change, they whither and die. it's ok, though. most people in the world are like that. they're just there to take from the tree and give shade every now and then. that's all they can do. but don't get mad at people like that. it's just who they are, what they were put on this earth to do. some people are like branches on a tree. you have to be careful with the branches, too because they can fool you. they'll make you think they're a good friend and real strong but the minute you step out on them, they'll break and leave you high and dry. but if you find two or three people in your life that are like the roots at the bottom of the tree, you are blessed. those are the kind of people that aren't going anywhere. when you get some roots you have to hold on to them but as far as the others - just let them go. let folks go. and nobody said it'll be easy, but it will get easy when you learn to love yourself. when you get to a point in your life where you look at people and say "ok, wait a minute, you or me?" you will make a decision. i've never thrown anyone away, never told anyone to stop talking to me. what i do is say "ok, look, this thing you're doing is causing a problem. you need to fix it because if we're going to be friends and you don't, we're going to have an issue." if you see someone fix it or even try to fix it, that's someone who cares. keep those people around. that's a leaf that's trying to grow up and be something else. but if you're telling someone that what they're doing is hurting you and they keep doing it, they don't really care. move on. let them go. no matter how much it hurts, let them go. and it'll get easier. every day it'll get easier, but you just have to make it through."